Category: Life Lessons

Do You Want To Make Cake?… Or Progress?

I have a health problem: It’s called SPHS — Spontaneous Procrastinative Hunger Syndrome.

It’s very serious.

Basically, whenever I have a lot on my to-do list, and I’m not quite sure what to tackle next, I get hungry.

Not for just anything.

Usually, I get hungry for something that I don’t have in the fridge. Something that would require a trip to the store, and (if the to-do list is particularly complex) cooking.

Often, it’s a multi-pan affair. Something going on the stovetop, while something else heats in the oven, with several mixing bowls, measuring cups, knives, and cutting boards to match, all of which need cleaning before I can get back to my to-do list (obviously).

The problem for people who suffer from SPHS is that the food never quite hits the spot (because you weren’t hungry in the first place). Instead, you spend a bunch of time only to find yourself standing there two or three hours later, tired(er), to-do list still undone, and that much less time left in the day.

Doesn’t matter. The disease persists.

Today, the craving was cake.

I don’t even like cake. But as I was working I had a turkey cooking down into stock on the stove, and something about the smell reminded me of the first hint of a cake that’s been in the oven for a few minutes.

The SPHS stirred.

My better brain objected. It might have even prevailed. But then my other disease, SPCS, kicked in.

If you haven’t heard of it, SPCS is short for Spontaneous Procrastinative Chore Syndrome. Basically, that’s a condition where you think of little chores you can do that feel useful but actually just distract you from the thing you’re supposed to be working on.

It’s not fatal (though it can be for your career).

Anyways, I have both of these. And the sum result was that this afternoon, I was craving cake, trying to resist a trip to the supermarket, when I suddenly remembered the supermarket is next to the hardware store, and the hardware store sells fireplace logs, and I’m kind of low on fireplace logs, so if I go to get cake stuff, I can get fireplace logs too, and then it’s not a distraction but a very useful trip.

Plus I end up with cake at the end.

I won’t bury the lead here: I’m not eating cake right now.

I made my way to the hardware store, perused the aisles for fireplace logs, all the while thinking about what kind of cake I should make, and what would be involved in that. Cracking the eggs, mixing batter, filling pans (oh, I need pans).

And as I did, a voice appeared in my head.

“You’re going to do all that,” it said, “just to make yourself feel better about this to-do list which is out of control?”

I paused as the thought occurred to me.

“Would you rather make cake? Or progress?”

On Getting Older

It hits you suddenly one morning; The realization that nothing you do will ever again be impressive because of your age alone.

If you earn a graduate degree or start a business at the age of twelve, you are extraordinary.

But neither makes you special at twenty-eight. You may be special for other reasons. But if you publish a book, or invent a new method for harvesting juniper berries, no one will say “and he’s only almost thirty!”

After all, you’ve had nearly three decades here on this rock, and you ought to have been spending your time on something.

Then, there is the time. The awareness of all the time that is forever behind you, and which you can never get back.

Tomorrow, you said, day after day. Tomorrow I’m going to start. Now, looking back on ten or fifteen years of tomorrows, you can’t help but wonder where you might be if more of them had been todays.

It’s a funny thing, you think, that life is planned forward but the only time you’re ever sure you own is the time you’ve already spent.

These two realizations are enough to turn the hair gray, and sometimes that is the next thing that happens. Or perhaps you make one last attempt at glory, opting for a mid-life crisis a few decades ahead of schedule.

But if you’re lucky, another realization begins to dawn on you:

That if you can no longer be impressive because of your age alone, you also don’t have to be.

The years, you realize, perhaps for the first time, are suddenly on your side. There’s no rush. The sun is setting on your chance to be a prodigy, but just as sunset somewhere is sunrise somewhere else, this passing of time shines light on a newer, more meaningful possibility: Long-term Mastery.

My Favorite Notebook

What movie had the biggest impact on your life?

If you’d asked me yesterday I probably would have told you something like Poltergeist. I watched that movie with my dad when I was seven and hardly slept again until I could legally drink. The last four places I’ve lived were completely without bedroom closets, and I’d be lying if I said there was no connection.

Or perhaps I’d have pointed to Man of the House with Chevy Chase and Jonathan Taylor Thomas. After watching that I spent the next ten years trying to pull off Jonathan Taylor Thomas’s cool-guy attitude and his haircut.

But the truth — which I didn’t realize until I sat down to write this — is that the movie which has had the most powerful impact on my life is one that I hardly remember anymore.

I was ten the first time I saw Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, and now, nearly two decades later I recall just two things: The fight scene where Indie throws a man out of a zeppelin and tells onlookers it was because the guy had “No ticket”, and the grail diary. Dr. Henry Jones senior’s Grail Diary was a battered leather-bound book in which he’d recorded every clue gleaned from his lifelong quest to find the Holy Grail. Its pages were filled with notes and sketches from a hundred different adventures in places all around the world.

What is it about the leather-bound notebook that’s so powerfully linked to the life of the traveler? Even now when I see one on the shelf at a book store I’m transported to places yet unseen. Gypsied away to the heat and chatter of a bustling Turkish market square, or to an Amazonian lodge when the rains are about to come and electricity is in the air. Not unlike real books, notebooks have a special power all their own. From the moment I saw that book I wanted one of my own. Perhaps more importantly, I wanted to lead the kind of life that could fill those pages.

I must have talked about it endlessly because on the morning of my eleventh birthday I unwrapped a beautiful leather-bound sketchbook.

“Dear Ethan,” a note on the very first page read, “Thought you could use a place to record all your adventures! Love, Mom & Dad”.

That simple gift changed the direction of my life forever.

It’s not easy to lead a life of adventure. Going places means you have to leave other places behind, and when those other places are filled with the people you already know and love it’s hard to make the move. It’s much easier on the heart (and the wallet) to simply dream of faraway places.

But when someone hands you an empty notebook, they are in a way telling you “go”. They’re telling you to get out of your head and into the world. They’re telling you it’s okay to leave them, so long as you bring back a story from out there. And once you have an empty notebook, you can’t very well leave it empty. An empty notebook is a constant reminder of all that you haven’t done.

Your life changes when you have an adventure journal to fill, even if you’re just a kid — especially if you’re just a kid. At least a couple of times a day you find yourself pausing to think about whatever it is you’re doing, wondering does this count as an adventure? Can this go in the book? I began looking for adventure everywhere, if only to have something to write down.

And of course the secret, that only eleven-year-olds with empty adventure notebooks and even emptier bank accounts learn, is that adventure can be found anywhere. Even the most remote jungles are home to someone. Far-off mountains lie in someone else’s backyard, and somewhere there’s a little kid who’s bored of seeing that same Turkish market square every day. They dream of a far-away place that looks just like your backyard. And so it’s not the setting, but the mindset that makes for an adventure.

Those early experiences, scrounging for excitement in the bushes around my house, shaped me as a traveler. But I don’t think it’s necessary to start young. Just that you should have an empty notebook.

And if you’re in the market for a notebook of your own, you could hardly do better in my opinion than the Canson 180 artbook. I won’t pretend to be an expert on paper. I don’t know what acid-free really means. But there’s one thing I do understand and that’s writing in awkward places. In the years since my eleventh birthday I’ve been lucky enough to scrawl notes while holed up on the floor of a frozen mountain shelter while snow piled up outside, and in the back of a truck in the jungle. I’ve made do with the desks in a hundred hotels and motels, and with the balcony of the Queen Mary II as she made her way from New York to England. I’ve written by firelight, and head-light, in the rain, and after not seeing rain for a month.

Write in enough places and you begin to appreciate the little things. The Canson 180 is the first notebook I’ve ever found that will not only open but lie perfectly flat on every single page. There’s no awkward grappling with the binding or paper in order to keep it open. Simply lay it down, and put pen to paper. They accomplish this using a unique technology called a “coptic” binding and it’s truly remarkable. I’ve been carrying one every day since September of 2015, when I left for a month on the Appalachian Trail. That notebook lasted more than six months before I finally filled it, and went with me everywhere from the southern states to posh English country estates, rural France, Mexico, and many places in between.

After so long on the road, as you can imagine, the notebook had seen better days. The people at canson were nice enough to send me a brand new one so that I could photograph it. But lest you think this is just a product plug, you should know this — I was in France when my first notebook ran out. The replacement they sent me was six-thousand miles away in my home in the US. Rather than waiting a week to pick it up when I was home, I walked to the nearest art shop and spent $25 to replace it then and there. All told I’ve spent well over a hundred dollars on these notebooks, and plan to continue spending that money for as long as they continue to work, which based on my experience so far seems to be forever.

On Small Deaths and the Need for Adventure

Why do we go away? This is the question that every adventurer wrestles with at one point or another. Why can’t we be happy with a settled life, a quiet town, a loving partner, a stable job? What pushes us out the door again and again, away from home and into the punishing reality of a life “out there”? Makes us draw taught the sails, and point the bow towards the irresistible siren song of a distant horizon? What are we hoping to find?

For me the answer, in a word, is clarity.

Clarity of mind, and of purpose. For I am never so clear as in those days just before the beginning of some new and uncertain enterprise.

There is a certain noise to civilized life — a clashing and clanging of the grand machine; of politics, and bills, and appointments, and grocery lists, a ruckus of obligation which grows louder with time. Death alone brings escape from the noise.

Each big adventure is like a very small death. Unlike a vacation, an adventure is filled with risk and contains within it at least a small possibility that you may never return. It’s this possibility that allows you to step outside the life you’re currently building, and examine it as though you were about to leave it behind forever. As a trip draws near, the volume on life’s noise goes down each day until soon you’re left with the pleasant hum of nothing but the essentials; the stuff you really care about, the people you want to spend time with, the things you want to say to them.

And then you go out to the edges of the map, the places unknown. There you live a different sort of life. It’s difficult, but not in the same way as life back home. You eat less, and sleep less. You’re colder than you want to be, hotter than you think you can bear. You come face to face with your own smallness, and realize that the world truly doesn’t care whether you live or die. And somehow, in the face of that, your own will to live is rekindled and fanned.

The world you left behind no longer seems chaotic and full of noise, but colorful and set to music. Life, you realize, is full of possibilities. It’s there for the taking, and there are no rules except that you must be willing to reap whatever it is that you sow. Your eyes turn once more towards civilized life and the sweet promises of building a place for yourself, falling in love, shredding endless piles of junk mail, and watching TV talent shows.

And so in this way adventure is partly about escaping civilized life so that you can learn to love it once again. It is the winter that strips away all the excess, so that spring can usher in a new bloom. We go, not just because adventure is out there. We go so that we can come back.

Editing Your Life with Graham Hill

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Graham Hill speaks in the slow, confident tone of someone who works too hard to be enamored by their own success. He doesn’t say much. But when he does talk, he mentions amazing feats, like his time on the Plastiki – a catamaran made from recycled water bottles which sailed across the Pacific – with such passing simplicity that you might think he was merely recounting an interesting article he’d glanced over, rather than a once in a lifetime adventure he’d undertaken. He is, in short, a very nice guy who does very cool stuff. His newest project, LifeEdited, is no different.

“So the basic concept behind LifeEdited,” he said,

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